Wednesday, 22 September 2010
Sperm donor 'scam': that's no vulnerable victim, that's my sister
Guest post: Super Sister is furious - she's irate at the way the case of the men behind Fertility 1st has been portrayed and I agree with her. I don't see any victims in my family, except, perhaps, my nephew Baby G who can't now get a genetic sibling.
Over to you Super Sister:
(Pic: Beautiful Baby G enjoying one of Granny's special biscuits)
As I write this, two men face prison sentences for “exploiting women” by illegally making sperm available over the internet.
So I’m an exploited and vulnerable woman am I? Well I don’t really feel it. At the moment I feel like an angry, frustrated, infuriated and cheated woman, but not an exploited one! Fertility 1st was not a scam run by conmen. I would like to try to set the record straight.
Fertility 1st was, apparently, dreamt up over a pint in the pub - like many good business venture to fill a niche in the market. For lots of women, who for whatever reason may not have access to a ready supply of sperm and or would like to have their child conceived without knowing the identity of their donor, this company offered them a real alternative to costly and impersonal regulated fertility clinics
Ricky and Nigel enabled women like me and my wife to select a donor from looking at basic details, all health checks were carried out and suitable donation times were arranged. OK there was a certain amount of trust involved, but then surely there is with any “live” sperm donations. Yes, there were costs involved, but they were a fraction of going to regulated clinics and we could arrange donations at a convenient time in our own home, giving a much more relaxed approach to conception with no medical intervention.
Customer service at Fertility 1st was excellent and I genuinely believe that Ricky and Nigel believe they were offering a service which benefited many women and gave some, like us, a chance to have a family. So they made a profit. Please don’t try to tell me The London Women's Clinic and the Glasgow Centre Reproductive Medicine and many others aren’t pleased to make a profit?
Baby G is cheeky, giggly, toddling testament to Fertility 1st and whilst we feel blessed to have had the opportunity to have our beautiful boy, we were coming round to the idea that a sibling for him would have been nice (half the nursing home bills, shared genes and at the end of the day siblings are great!) and up until last week there was a real chance of Baby G’s baby sibling having the same donor. Now that chance has been taken from us. I could have accepted that the donor could have pulled out of the programme at any time. I could have accepted that we may never have managed to conceive this time round... but I am so angry that we are not being given the chance because this nanny state we live in has decided that it needs to regulate every aspect of our lives.