Tuesday, 2 November 2010

Miscarriage - a shared experience


I expect by now everyone knows about Lily Allen's awful news - about how she lost her baby at six months.
I've spent quite a lot of time thinking about her... and about me. You see, I had a miscarriage too at 19 weeks. It was a little while ago and I now have the beautiful Boy Three, nevertheless those feelings aren't too far from the surface.

And it appears I'm not alone. The Mad House did the same and so did Living With Kids.

I wrote about it at my stv.tv Everymum blog.

I shouldn't be surprised that there have been messages, RTs, likes for similar posts all over the blogging world. There are a lot of us out there.

So if we all agree there should be more talk about miscarriage, more understanding and more sharing, then let's get cracking right now.

It's not a carnival, that wouldn't be right. But if you've blogged about miscarriage - yours, Lily's or just in general - then share it here.

16 comments:

  1. I haven't yet blogged about my miscarriage experience but I will at some stage because you are right, suddenly realising that others had experienced what I had helped so much.

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  2. Hi Louisa, It's almost like something bloggers can do to help. I look forward to reading your post.

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  3. I wrote about my own fears about miscarraige and how I've tried to help friends cope with theirs in an article titled "Cry if You Want to"
    http://www.everythingmom.com/soul/cry-if-you-want-to-how-to-respond-to-a-friends-pregnancy-loss.html
    People do need to talk about it more so that others can understand better and those who need support can get it.

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  4. Readily A Parent, excellent advice from a true friend.

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  5. I tried to Linky my post but it wouldn't work, I've had two miscarriages and I wrote about one of them here http://babyrambles.blogspot.com/2010/03/due-date-that-never-was.html

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  6. I tried the Linky but don't think it's worked. My post is here: http://tillytatas.blogspot.com/2008/09/decisions-decisions-and-tag.html
    I had an early miscarriage before I had Nipper, and the one that I've blogged before I got pregnant with Tiddler, who we now think of as a bit of a miracle baby, since I was nearly 44 when I had him and we nearly didn't try again.

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  7. Emily, Thanks for your story - it's very moving and I'm so pleased you were able to find someone to talk to.

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  8. Tilly, I'm trying to find out what's wrong with the linky - apart from operator error!
    Lovely post and a lovely blog. I'm glad I found it.

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  10. I was going to write a new post for this and may still yet, but actually, the most appropriate one is this:

    http://solnushka.wordpress.com/2006/08/13/15/

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  11. Lovely post Sol, I hope you don't mind I've put it in the linky.

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  12. Solnushka alerted me to this post. I added a link via the clever linky thing to a post I wrote at a time when I was feeling rather... complicated (mostly lonely and angry) about how the media portrays women who are infertile and/or have lost babies, and how isolating it was. Thank you for this post, and for allowing us a chance to share our experiences here.

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  13. Nutsinmay, thank you for your eloquent post. It is complex. It's like it's OK to have a vagina but no one wants to know about the uterus to which it's attached, if you'll forgive me for being direct.

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  14. My whole blog is based around the loss of my Son at 22 weeks. It started as his pregnancy diary and then went on to be my grief diary, its amazing how life turns out.

    http://ridingthewavesoftime.blogspot.com/

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  15. Hi Alice, I'm just off to have a read. Thanks.

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  16. Looks like I've missed the linky cut off - my story about my second m/c

    http://www.veryboredincatalunya.com/2009/10/3-days-of-hell.html

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